My competition suit came in yesterday and boy are those bottoms SMALL!! Looks like I have a whole new reason to stay motivated. 🙂
Craig posted an article a few days ago about failure. If you didn’t read it you can check it out here. I always enjoy Craig’s articles, but this one really hit home for me. I think it will for you, too, so make sure you give it a read.
At some point in life every one of us experiences disappointment. While experiencing disappointment is unavoidable, it’s up to you to either allow it to lead to failure or motivate you to work harder to improve your situation.
This reminded me of a disappointing experience I had back on January 1st, which was my first check in with my competition coach.
The Disappointing Truth
The main point of this first meeting was for my coach to assess me to determine which competition class I was best suited for. I’m standing there in shorts and a sports bra so he could look me over as he tells me I’m not quite ready to compete in the figure category.
There are basically three different competition classes: Bikini, Figure and Physique.
In all honesty, I didn’t need him to tell me bikini was where I belonged. Deep down I knew that’s where he’d put me, but I stayed hopeful in case I was just being hard on myself, as I have a tendency to do.
I was pretty sure I was too “small” to compete in the figure class. I worked as hard as possible to get there, but just couldn’t put on enough muscle mass during my off-season working on getting gainz.
I left that initial check-in feeling a bit defeated and pretty down on myself. I worked SO hard for a year-and-a-half. I mean, I honestly worked my butt off and gave it all I had!
While I knew that this didn’t mean competing was out of the question, because I could still compete in the Bikini class, the class I love and REALLY wanted to compete in was Figure. It was the class I had pictured myself in from the time I set my sights on competing.
I wouldn’t mind taking the final step to the physique class at some point. That’s a long way off, though. Getting there will probably take 10 or more years to gain enough muscle, and that’s if my body would even naturally allow for it.
As Scott (my hubby) and I drove home, we were discussing the meeting with my coach. Scott knew I was feeling defeated and down. It had to have been obvious.
At the time I just kept thinking: BIKINI. IS. NOT. AN. OPTION.
That’s not what I wanted to do. I was being stubborn and closed-minded.
The discussion with my husband was figuring out what I wanted to do. Do I go ahead with prep and compete in bikini? Or, do I take another year to eat and lift to put more muscle on so I can be figure ready?
This decision weighed heavy on me and I didn’t know what to do. The next day I was still feeling defeated, upset, like a huge failure.
I was out to lunch with my girlfriends, discussing my dilemma when I got a text from my coach. It read: “Keep your foot on the gas. You’re doing good!”
I’ll never forget that text. It was a turning point in my thinking process and began a series of events that gave me a new perspective.
When I got home, I decided to do some research to see what the Bikini class was really all about. And you know what? They look AMAZING!
I knew I had to push forward and compete. And here I am more than halfway through my prep.
I may not have wanted to compete in the Bikini division, but I can honestly say that the disappointment of failing to be ready for the figure class has only amplified my determination to get there next year!
This whole experience also helped me realize something even bigger, as well. I was so focused on competing in figure that I let it define me in my mind. The category or class anyone competes in – or finds themselves stationed within any other area in life – doesn’t define who they are.
No matter what , I’ll always continue to work hard and push myself. Not because I feel like I belong in a certain class, but because I love it! I love to work hard to better myself.
Even though I’m not where I wanted to be, I’m a lot further along than I was, and I’m going to progressively continue getting better. Everyone starts somewhere and I’m proud of myself for how far I’ve come!
And when a setback occurs, or something doesn’t go the way you expected, you have to decide who you are and what you’re going to do.
Are you going to make yourself better by trying again or are you going to quit and be a failure? The choice is yours.
You can’t always choose your circumstances, but you can always choose how you’ll respond to them. Choose wisely!